{"id":7961,"date":"2023-05-15T07:15:00","date_gmt":"2023-05-15T14:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/goldmanstate.com\/?p=7961"},"modified":"2023-05-14T20:54:06","modified_gmt":"2023-05-15T03:54:06","slug":"rules-of-ed-iquette-pinkies-up-everyone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goldmanstate.com\/2023\/05\/15\/rules-of-ed-iquette-pinkies-up-everyone\/","title":{"rendered":"Rules of Ed-iquette: Pinkies Up, Everyone!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;19px||23px|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_module=&#8221;2637&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/goldmanstate.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/GPB-Bank-Local-Banner_1.jpg&#8221; 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custom_padding=&#8221;10px|||||&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<h2>Presenting the fourth part of a trilogy<\/h2>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Author&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; header_4_text_align=&#8221;center&#8221; header_6_text_align=&#8221;center&#8221; header_6_font_size=&#8221;13px&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||2px|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h6>By Ed Goldman<\/h6>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; module_alignment_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; module_alignment_phone=&#8221;&#8221; module_alignment_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;3px|||||&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><span class='et-dropcap'>I<\/span>\u00a0first published Rules of Ed-iquette in 2015 as an installment of a daily online column I wrote in the Sacramento Business Journal for eight years.<\/p>\n<p>Editor Jack Robinson told me that particular column \u201ctrended\u201d and asked for a sequel. I did two more: one week later and then almost three years later.\u00a0But by the time of the final installment in 2018, Jack had re-married, left the Journal and moved to Philadelphia, where he died of a brain tumor at the age of 61.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=&#8221;@ET-DC@eyJkeW5hbWljIjp0cnVlLCJjb250ZW50IjoicG9zdF9mZWF0dXJlZF9pbWFnZSIsInNldHRpbmdzIjp7fX0=@&#8221; alt=&#8221;Edgy Cartoon&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Kitchen Confidential&#8221; show_in_lightbox=&#8221;on&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; _dynamic_attributes=&#8221;src&#8221; width=&#8221;80%&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;93%&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;95%&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; max_width=&#8221;95%&#8221; max_width_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; max_width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; max_width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; border_width_all=&#8221;1px&#8221; box_shadow_style=&#8221;preset3&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Caption&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; text_font=&#8221;Georgia||on||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;14px&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;-16px||||false|false&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; text_font_size_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_font_size_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_font_size_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>Honesty is the best fallacy&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;||0px|||&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>I loved this guy. He had a sense of humor and a sense of honor. This one\u2019s for you, Jack.<\/p>\n<p>Dear Ed-iquette:<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m hosting a formal dinner at my home this weekend and since I\u2019m not serving soup, is it still necessary for me to include a soup spoon with the table setting? \u2014 Confused in Carlsbad<\/p>\n<p>Dear Confused: Yes, especially if the meal will include peas or mashed potatoes, though butter knives can be adorable pinch-hitters.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Adsense Horizontal&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; width=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width=&#8221;90%&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; global_module=&#8221;1433&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><!-- gs_horizontal_new --><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     style=&#8221;display:block&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-client=&#8221;ca-pub-8489921453224987&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-slot=&#8221;5069548950&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-format=&#8221;auto&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-full-width-responsive=&#8221;true&#8221;><\/ins><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><\/script>[\/et_pb_code][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;||0px|||&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>Dear Ed-iquette,<\/p>\n<p>I just received a handwritten get-well card from a quickie-loan company to which I owe a good deal of money. Since I\u2019m in perfect health, is it in good taste for me to respond nevertheless?\u2014Perplexed in Petaluma<\/p>\n<p>Dear Perplexed,<\/p>\n<p>What I think would really be in good taste would be the following: Cobble together whatever meager resources you have to (1) hire a food taster; (2) bring in an intern to start your car in the morning; (3) get a learn-Spanish-while-you-sleep CD, which will prove immensely helpful when you (4) relocate to Chihuahua, one of the federal entities of Mexico.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Adsense Horizontal&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; width=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width=&#8221;90%&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; global_module=&#8221;1433&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><!-- gs_horizontal_new --><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     style=&#8221;display:block&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-client=&#8221;ca-pub-8489921453224987&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-slot=&#8221;5069548950&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-format=&#8221;auto&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-full-width-responsive=&#8221;true&#8221;><\/ins><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><\/script>[\/et_pb_code][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;||0px|||&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>Dear Ed-iquette:<\/p>\n<p>During a road-rage incident, is there a gesture I can deploy that would be a little less ammunition-provoking than flipping off a driver who just cut me off and WHO&#8217;S A TOTAL #$%!!^&amp;*ing IDIOT? I&#8217;m sending this by text from the San Diego Freeway at Rush Hour, so there&#8217;s no need to reply instantaneously, though I&#8217;d appreciate your doing so within about 20 minutes. Thanks in advance.\u2014Not Exactly Sanguine in SoCal\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Dear Not Exactly:<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re driving that 2020 white Prius with the &#8220;Be Woke About Water Usage&#8221; bumper sticker, you should know that: (a) I didn&#8217;t cut you off even when it looked like it was going to take you 40 minutes to decide to switch to the lane I was graciously trying to let you into; (b) I think people who drive Priuses don&#8217;t seem to know they have gas pedals or turn signals; and (c) I absolutely know that you, not I, are the TOTAL #$%!!^&amp;*ing IDIOT.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Adsense Horizontal&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; width=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width=&#8221;90%&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; global_module=&#8221;1433&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><!-- gs_horizontal_new --><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     style=&#8221;display:block&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-client=&#8221;ca-pub-8489921453224987&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-slot=&#8221;5069548950&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-format=&#8221;auto&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-full-width-responsive=&#8221;true&#8221;><\/ins><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><\/script>[\/et_pb_code][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;||0px|||&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>Dear Ed-iquette:<\/p>\n<p>My husband, who was 47 years older than me, recently passed away, leaving me approximately $5.6 billion in cash, jewelry, stocks and homes in Zurich, Paris, London, Manhattan and Miami. Neither of us had children since he felt it would ruin my figure (I occasionally take swimsuit modeling gigs for Sports Illustrated magazine). I&#8217;m tempted to start dating again. What would you advise?<\/p>\n<p>\u2014Sitting Pretty in Pacoima<\/p>\n<p>Dear Sitting:<\/p>\n<p>Ed-iquette can tell you&#8217;re a sensitive, intelligent, probably shy individual and he would prefer to provide the benefit of his counsel in person. Could you please IM your home address in Pacoima?<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Adsense Horizontal&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; width=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;90%&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width=&#8221;90%&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;|0px||0px|false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; global_module=&#8221;1433&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><!-- gs_horizontal_new --><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     style=&#8221;display:block&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-client=&#8221;ca-pub-8489921453224987&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-slot=&#8221;5069548950&#8243;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-ad-format=&#8221;auto&#8221;<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     data-full-width-responsive=&#8221;true&#8221;><\/ins><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><\/script>[\/et_pb_code][et_pb_text module_class=&#8221;endingG&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>Dear Ed-iquette:<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I am the driver of the 2020 white Prius with the aforementioned bumper sticker. And I don&#8217;t appreciate your culture-shaming me just because I&#8217;m a complete clich\u00e9. Can we have a conversation? There&#8217;s a coffee shop at the next exit and I&#8217;m in dire need of a decaf Americano plus a low-fat scone. \u2014Becoming a Bit Sanguine in SoCal<\/p>\n<p>Dear Becoming:<\/p>\n<p>You sound like a very nice person. Eat my shorts. 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